The longer people are married, the less accurate they are in predicting their mate
Summary
- Many lock into a previous version of their mate, instead of figuring out how your mate has grown over time
Details
- Need to work hard to keep learning about your mate
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Intriguingly, Ickes finds that the longer many couples are married, the less accurate they are at reading each other. They lock in some early version of who their spouse is, and over the years, as the other person changes, that version stays fixed—and they know less and less about what’s actually going on in the other’s heart and mind.