Before blaming others, change the things within our control

Summary

• Change what I can control before blaming others

Details

• For example, if boss's instructions are vague, have i asked enough follow up questions to make sure they are clear?

References

• Managing up - How to get what you need from the people in charge - Melody Wilding

Quotes

• Have I changed what I can control? If you’re silent in meetings, can you really blame your boss for not spotlighting your achievements? If your boss’s instructions are vague and confusing, have you asked enough follow-up questions to get clarity? Before laying blame, ask yourself: Have I taken charge of what’s within my power? Start by adjusting your own actions. This alone could change how your boss responds to you or eliminate the annoying behavior altogether.

Related

• Achieving change takes time
• Change yourself instead of changing the world - Leo Tolstoy
• Personal change requires some space to happen
• We cannot control what others say or do, but we can control our response